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OPINION | Identify and understand your mood

I CALLED 911 at 3 a.m. because I could not stop coughing and I was experiencing shortness of breath.

The EMT responder was so angry because I woke him up at 3 a.m. But I remained calm and collected.

“You have a choice,” I said. “You can argue with me or you can do your job and take me to the ER or you can let me die right here right now.” He stopped arguing with me and took me to the ER.

Not only did I have a deadly fever, I also had pneumonia. ER doctors gave me Tylenol, lots of juice, penicillin, 10-day treatment pills, fruits and sandwiches and sent me home.

We must consider important aspects regarding our anger, including its physical symptoms and healthy ways to express it.

It’s hard to compose ourselves in a stressful situation but we must remain calm and collected and we must try to express our anger creatively to protect ourselves.

A healthy way to express our anger is to try to resolve the dispute through communication.

Communication is the essence of expressing our point of view calmly and civilly.

Anger is a natural part of our lives and we must acknowledge it before we can get our point across.

After a typhoon has just destroyed homes, schools and businesses, a survivor may not realize that he or she is really angry.

It’s very easy to say “breathe in and breathe out” and “control your anger,” but honestly it’s not that easy or that simple, especially when your anger is going hundreds of miles per second.

People use psychological defense mechanisms to ignore stress, fear or the negative consequences of their problems. So first of all, we must identify what is making us go coconut-crazy.

Then we should try to calm ourselves down, back away from our anger and assess and evaluate it before proceeding to express our concerns.

Some who cannot keep their anger in control go ballistic and really blow everything out of proportion.

Some people say, “I’m okay” or “I’m fine.” They deny or put aside and repress their anger, but this is like bottling up a volcano that is ready to explode.

It can be dangerous and destructive. We are better off if we acknowledge or recognize our anger and learn about it and the symptoms that come with it. We don’t want to get a heart attack and drop dead because of anger.

The biological signs of anger must be identified especially the physical part because internally they can be damaging to our physiology.

Anger energizes people in a physical confrontation or conflict, and that’s why our anger can become so dangerous and destructive.

You don’t want to go to CUC or the food stamp office and scream at the staff.  You have to remember that the way you communicate with them under pressure will determine  its outcome.

Everything is going on in your body when you’re angry. It can paralyze your creative thinking and how you communicate your problem. You must try to talk and express your concerns calmly.

Anger can become dangerous when it lasts for a long period of time. It’s called “suppression.” Holding it inside is not good. Talk to a person who can help you. Get professional help.

Some were raised to believe that “nice” people don’t get angry. These people were taught to mind their own business and not make any waves.

These people grew up not realizing that they, like everybody else, at some point will become angry. And if they do get angry, they’ll say, “It doesn’t bother me” or “It’s just not worth it to get angry” or “I couldn’t care less.”

But we do care about you because you’re repressing and stuffing your anger aside, and at some point you will blow up like a volcano.

Trying to delay anger is a no-no; it’s a big mistake. I don’t know how you can handle the fact that a typhoon just obliterated your neighborhood by acting like everything is fine.

Speak your mind calmly to an expert. Understand your pain and sorrow. Let it all out. Talk about what you badly need for your family to minimize the stress or depression.

We don’t want you to get sick,  PSTD  or any other ailment that will hurt you. Be honest to yourself and get help please.

Some people believe that if they ignore their anger it will go away. But the truth is, you’re holding yourself hostage. Express yourself if you feel angry or stressed or having a hard time. Again, go get some help, please.

You will need to find solutions after the devastation caused by a typhoon. It’s stressful to think how you’re going to rebuild your life.

You don’t want to be a macho and ignore your stress. It’s okay to seek help. It’s good for you and family.

When anger builds up and you do something horrible then it will be too late to do what’s best for you and your family. It will be too late to regret the bad destructive acts you did.

Look folks, nobody is a Superman and even Superman is not perfect so think rationally and with common sense to make sure you have a support system that can help you out.

I am sharing with you my experience because I studied depression for five years. I wanted to understand mental disorders that afflict humans.

I am equipped today to deal with any angry or suicidal people. If I can help my suicidal wife and save her life then I can also help CNMI typhoon victims.

Even first responders, doctors or scientists get stressed out and depressed, too. So seek help please because it will keep you safe and healthy in the long run.

The writer is a resident of Portland, Oregon.