The life of a marriage solely depends on each individual participant’s ability to recognize and shun all that is aimed at ending a marriage – everything from a partners inability to cook to the next door neighbor flirtatious behavior.Marriage is not “for better or for worse,” “in sickness and in good health,” or “’til death do us part.”Marriages end either because the participants can’t stand each other anymore, or that a more suitable and compatible other comes along for either partner, or a partner relocates somewhere else without notice.
I have been married for 16 years with a few minor complaints – nothing beyond my wife and I.I love my wife with all my being, but she knows I can live without her as she can without me – we are independent souls.We did not take an oath before a judge or stand before a congregation to consummate our marriage; however, we try, as much as we can, to practice the “to do list” of an ideal marriage as described in books and restated by other married people.So far, we have disregarded nearly half of what is on the list – not worth the exercise especially when others have used them and failed miserably.
I have been told so many times that a person becomes “one” with a partner in a marriage.As told, a marriage is like a coin – two sides, one value.I wonder what my marriage is worth.I hope it is worth more than a dime.And then again, I wonder which side I am supposed to be – head or tail?I would rather that my marriage be a check – at least once in a “wile” it would bounce and won’t end up in an ash tray of a car.
I have come to a conclusion that marriages – the nickels, dimes, quarters, and pennies – are doomed to fail.They are flipped every so often during occasions when a toss is necessary – and someone always lands face first.Moreover, the partners in “coin” marriages never face each other – the head can’t see the tail, except the tails or heads of other coins.And worse, when Bill comes along, all the quarters become infidels.
I hope you do not think that I do not like being married or that I do not believe in marriage.I need to be married – there are just too many wonderful things in a marriage that can’t be missed – and far too many diseases about for one to be promiscuous.I believe in the sanctity of marriage; however, I think each person should only marry once and not more.
If you are married, please try as much as you can to stay married.Do not fool around.Be faithful, trusting, and don’t expect too much.If you are not married yet, do not rush into a marriage that you are unsure of.Rattle your coins – loose change.Someone will likely check on you.
