Perhaps there will be time for that in the future. This is not about anger. This is about disappointment, injustice, sadness, and disbelief for a system that is broken. I would have taken this topic up with you personally Ken (actually I did for 4 years) but your response was, “Be quiet Mr. Davies, you have a lawyer to speak for you.” As though having a lawyer negates my right to be a father. I would like to see that law. Tell me Ken, how do you talk to someone who will not listen? How do you hear someone who will not speak to you? How are you seen by someone who is blind? I am tired of complaining silently in my heart. We are condemned if we are bad fathers and condemned even more for being good fathers. I will not be quiet any longer.
I celebrated the day you were removed from the family courts and my case. For four years you looked the other way. You have destroyed my belief in the legal process. I recognize your various contributions to our community. We have many of the same friends and they respect you. I get that.
But perhaps I have been blinded by your actions as you have been blinded by dealing with fathers who do not care about their children. You have been tainted and now you treat us all the same and refuse to see the truth. A million rights will not erase one wrong but everyone deserves a second chance, right? I invite you to appear on the John Gonzales show where this topic can be discussed and you don’t make up the rules as you go along.
Last time in court, you called me a dead beat dad. You were right. I am. Because I will not stop until I am DEAD to BEAT the system that has prevented me from being a DAD. You have denied my children and me years of memories that will be lost forever. You did this by your acts of omission. You condemn people for not following orders yet you will not even enforce your own.
Fact: Four years ago you ordered all of my assets to be sold.
Fact: In spite of my countless trips into your courtroom, you sat on that order for four years while my son’s mother blatantly (IN YOUR FACE) ignored your orders.
Fact: I had to get rid of my attorney before you did anything significant.
Fact: I have never lied to you about a single thing.
Fact: You insinuated that I was plotting to kidnap my son. Yes you did! Check the tapes.
Fact: You threatened to hold me in contempt for withholding my son’s passport.
Fact: You should be the one held in contempt for not taking your responsibility seriously.
Fact: She did take him but you choose to call it going on vacation and never returning.
Fact: You told both attorneys that I should consider myself lucky that I am not stuck with the responsibility of raising my son. What kind of person says something like that?
Fact: If that is not true, why would the attorneys tell me that? Take it up with them.
Fact: I had the ability to pay all of my debt, child support etc.
Fact: You took that away from me by your complacency toward your own orders.
Fact: Your unwillingness to enforce your orders, caused me to file for bankruptcy and destroy my credit, etc.
Fact: Your acts of omission prevented me from seeing both of my children.
Fact: You ordered that I be allowed to speak to my son by SKYPE.
Fact: Four years later, I have yet to see a picture of my son or speak to him on SKYPE.
Fact: I was prevented from speaking to my son over the phone for over 8 months.
Fact: You did nothing!
Fact: You ordered that I be given my son’s address, the name of his school, the names of his teachers, his karate instructor and soccer coach etc.
Fact: Four years later and you continue to do nothing. NOTHING! I have raised this issue in your court perhaps a dozen times.
Fact: You are biased toward men and believe that every woman is a victim. You are wrong.
Fact: You created more problems than you solved causing me to come into your court countless times for the same problem thereby allowing lawyers to line their pockets.
Fact: You failed miserably.
If you are going to lay down the law, then you better enforce it, rather than allowing attorneys to make small fortunes at the expense of our children. I have been involved in my share of corporate lawsuits (as an interpreter) and I have to say, Corporations receive more respect and considerations than do children and parents in the courts. I pray that you will be more inspired in the future. There is no shame in making mistakes, only in not taking responsibility for them. I only wish you could feel the pain and disappointment of feeling like the only good thing you had done with your life was to become a father and to discover that your only true purpose in life is to love your children, only to have that taken by the person who was responsible to protect it. That was you. My son is not a car or a sofa. He is a sacred child of God and deserves better.
JUNGLE JIM DAVIES
Father
